Discipline is often framed as the key to achieving long-term health and fitness goals. But what if the need for discipline is actually a sign that something deeper is missing?
If you constantly feel like you have to force yourself to eat well or exercise, the real question isn’t “How do I become more disciplined?”—it’s “Why don’t I naturally want to take care of myself?”
If you need discipline to eat healthier, ask yourself: Why don’t I prioritize my health?
If you need discipline to exercise, ask yourself: Why don’t I value my body enough to move it?
The Real Issue: A Lack of Value
Discipline is only necessary when there is resistance—when you’re trying to make yourself do something you don’t actually want to do. Merriam-Webster defines discipline as – Control gained by enforcing obedience or order! I don’t know about you, but in my 20 years of coaching this sort of force has never worked and lead anyone to a healthier/fitter state! Instead of searching for productivity hacks or self-discipline strategies, it’s more valuable to examine why healthy choices feel like a burden in the first place.
Research shows that people who truly value their health engage in healthy behaviors effortlessly—not because they have to, but because they genuinely want to (Deci & Ryan, 2000). This is the difference between intrinsic motivation (doing something because it aligns with your values) and extrinsic motivation (doing something out of obligation or guilt).
VALUE is what drives our habits and repetitive patterns. If you don’t have a value for health, you’ll have a very hard time choosing healthier things. Someone that has a value for health they will always opt in for a healthier food options, or they’re less likely to skip their workout. Discipline doesn’t address any of this. Discipline, doesn’t work!
People who see healthy habits as an extension of self-care don’t need discipline. They eat nutritious foods, exercise, and take care of themselves because they value their well-being, not because they are forcing themselves to do so (Teixeira et al., 2012).
No Discipline Required
Once you shift your mindset and start truly valuing your health:
- Eating well won’t feel like a sacrifice—it will feel like self-respect.
- Exercise won’t feel like a punishment—it will feel like an investment in yourself.
- Healthy habits won’t require willpower—they will become second nature.
If you constantly rely on discipline, it’s a sign that something is misaligned. The real work isn’t in trying to be more disciplined; it’s in learning to value yourself enough that healthy choices become effortless.
References
• Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist, 55(1), 68-78.
• Teixeira, P. J., Carraça, E. V., Markland, D., Silva, M. N., & Ryan, R. M. (2012). Exercise, physical activity, and self-determination theory: A systematic review. International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity, 9, 78.